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You are responsible for your emotions

Sometimes things are out of your hands.  I don’t say that very often but it happens.  So what can you do when that offer doesn’t come through or someone hits your car in a parking lot or your kids gets sick right before you need to be out of town?  You deal with it.  You go to plan B or C or Z.   

It’s just life.  Life happens.  It’s easy to blame people or circumstances but it’s better to just get through that phase as fast as you can.  It’s not very useful.  The faster you can get past blame and feeling like a victim the faster you can get to finding a solution to the problem at hand. 

 

So get over it and start using your brain to come up with solutions.

Being angry can't un-do this.

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  1. March 14, 2011 at 1:46 pm

    Your words “The faster you can get past blame and feeling like a victim the faster you can get to finding a solution to the problem at hand” are simple truth.

    Now as for the how to “get over it”, I share the following:
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    – Make “flexibility/adaptability” one of your professional and personal goals. Something to be proud of. You will more likely see these interruptions and disappointments as a skill building activity instead of being victimized. Remember, adaptability and change-ability is the ONE thing employers look for.

    – Simplify life to allow for these changes. I used to pack my day with the maximum and that only works if all goes exactly as “I” planned it. In truth, it was over-packed given the random acts that can occur during any one day. 🙂

    – Action activates achievement. Vent a little and then think “what’s next”?

    Your short post has lit many thoughts in me Matt.
    Best,
    Kate

  2. March 14, 2011 at 2:01 pm

    In the military I learned that the best laid plans don’t survive initial contact with the enemy. Sounds like that rings true in many different venues.

    -Matt

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